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adult filmmaking has sprung up around the production of erotic media featuring
helpless straight boys who are seemingly seduced by the gay filmmaker for
a male4male audience. The term straight is used sparingly and I don't know
where the hell we're at in contemporary, Post 9-11 America in terms of
sexuality, but if these films are any indicator; the term "Gray" is more
applicable. You've seen these in your local urban smut vid store, or maybe
this is the first time you've ever heard this discussed. Ok...let's give
you the 411 on the hottest contemporary adult video style. For details
check out our syllabus for STRAIGHT BOY SEDUCTION FILMAKING 101 (this will
be on the test and we don't grade with a curve!). The tricks of the trade
consist of:
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Locating Sexually ambiguous guys and getting them to do solo jerk-offs
on tape for money, which may or may not lead to male4male experimentation
in front of the camera or at the least, will lead to the director grabbing
the guy's cock on film.
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Started originally as the military men porno series by such companies as
Dink Flamingo (www.Activeduty.com) & Sean Cody (www.SeanCody.com),
but since then it has grown to include everything from college dudes to
homeless guys.
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It's been growing since 1994 by leaps and bounds, with no end in site at
this writing. Dirk Yates is considered by many to be the grandfather of
the genre although other producers such as Bobby and BG Enterprise with
their Magic Hands series of films were also pioneers.
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A large gay following, who considers themselves gay and out. However, is
fascinated by the visual presentation of straight boy seductions; that
if played out in "real space" could possibly lead to very dangerous and/or
life threatening situations.
So maybe you're thinking that I'm making more out of this then it really
is. What's wrong with a visual fantasy that is no more stranger then our
straight brothers believing that all lesbians look like Pamela Lee Anderson
glamazons that wear clunky six inch heals while they muff dive? You are
both right, yet wrong. Although some would say it's just another growing
niche within the adult gay market, I see it more as a wake up call to some
larger community self-esteem issues. Ask yourself, would African Americans
buy magazines or videos that were labeled as Black, but all the models
were from India? Yes, both groups technically have the same shades of skin,
however there are some big differences in terms of culture and collective
experiences. We know that many gay and bi dudes of course have baggage,
but to me, the constant craving for men who identify themselves as straight,
yet are in gay porn is a little unnerving. Also, in my opinion, all the
blame doesn't lie with the community. Some of it has to do with the fact
that from a style standpoint, gays and straights have physically become
twins, especially in terms of the A-List, sexually active and handsome
part of each of these populations. I've had friends tell me they get hardons
from watching dating shows for straights, where the guy looks like a total
gay stud puppy. This merging of looks has more to do with the fact that
straight women over the past 30 years have become more visual and open
about finding the perfect mate. Thus not settling for those who don't have
Apollo like physiques as much as their grandmothers or mothers did. Second,
the gym craze has a lot to do with it as well. Straight dudes are pumping
as hard and taking both natural and/or anabolic supplements by the truckload
to get as they say that "RIPPED" look for the "honies". But regardless
of cultural demographic shifts between gay and straight, gay men seem more
and more attracted by guys who aren't gay or even identify themselves that
way or even bisexual. If these sites and porn is any indicator, regardless
of activity performed, the word gay is the kiss of death in terms of macho
homoerotic fantasy or purely indicates that a person or concept is feminine.
One could create a whole lecture series on this subject, but my fear
is what is going to happen if gay and closeted bi men, stop realizing this
is a fantasy? They can't form relationships with the guys who are making
extra cash because Uncle Sam isn't keeping their wallets lined with gold
while serving in the military. Nor, will they likely meet guys on the street
with a video camera and bring them back for a friendly photo shoot that
will result in a friendly "hand job" from the director. Many of these tapes
start out with an interview format and then lead to the model usually making
some sort of declaration that they're not gay or talking about women or
female conquests. This is my point, 10 minutes within the film, we're already
told that something is wrong with us and we're the one that purchased or
rented the flick! Second, some filmmakers show "bare backing" right off
the bat. Yes...experimentation is good, but at the price of safe sex? Thus
seeing beautiful, and probably HIV negative models engage in unsafe sex,
makes gay men feel that there is nothing wrong with the practice and it
has no consequences. This, in my opinion, is especially damaging to young
guys just coming out or those who live in areas that don't have great safe
sex information available to the public. And finally, the most valid and
sometimes not always PC or black or white issue, cruising straight guys.
Ok, light cruising can be acceptable but if you tried to do the supposedly
real tactics in some of the videos you may find yourself a statistic of
gay bashing. This may vary depending upon where you live, but who knows.
The video producer should tell the viewers when it's real and not and the
circumstances. Activeduty.com is good at this, but others do not and for
the non-media savy viewer, the real seductions are nothing more than scripted.
These films also, by not picking gay or even portraying their gay-for-pay
performers as gay in name only at least, raise the level of unreal expectations
that gay men have in terms of finding real mates. Additionally adding to
the already narrow scope of what male beauty and gay masculinity should
be as conveyed in more traditional fares of M4M porn. Many gays find themselves
with the feeling that they are "settling for less" in terms of looks or
supposedly straight-acting manners. This then makes gay men who would probably
select potential mates, not want them because of one perceived minor gay
mannerism. A laugh or a like of art or a diva seems to be a de facto negative
on a guy's dating resume, that would be otherwise not an issue let's say
10 or 20 years ago on the gay dating scene. What I'm trying to say is this:
There is nothing wrong with escapism, but when the escapism jumps off the
screen like the plot line from the Hollywood movie 'The Ring' www.ring-themovie.com,
I start getting worried. Thus impacting the very community and dating pool
in what I perceive as definitely not a positive way. I personally think
we're at the tip of the iceberg in terms of what the community will feel
as a direct result of the bare backing adult film phenomena of the past
several years. Drug-resistant mutations of HIV, deaths, and this issue
becoming top of the community's action items again for the next 5 years;
thus minimizing our political capital and strength to deal with such things
as equal rights or job discrimination and the all too forgotten gay parent
custody issue of kids. I don't want to see more and more gay men not finding
boyfriends or getting beat-up because they approached a guy who wasn't
really "model material". It just seems odd that with the openness or seemingly
tolerance of the US, that many gay men find themselves constantly obsessing
on masculinity and the perception of it to others. As stated earlier, it
would be like African Americans denying a part of themselves to accommodate
the majority. I don't hear many Black people describe people as "white-acting"
as a positive.
Also, I don't want to be misunderstood, I'm neither for censorship or
demonizing the producers of this genre, but I'm at the point enough is
enough. Porno is just a fantasy, but for so many gay men it is a window
to gay media and offers more masculine oriented escapism then the likes
of Will & Grace or Queer as Folk. Both shows are dynamic series, however
both have been criticized for not showing a complete picture of the gay
male reality and they both definitely show familiar gay perspectives that
even a conservative straight man could identify as gay. The question I'm
asking is why the shame after more than 25 years since Stonewall, countless
pride parades, openly gay elected officials, more gays on TV, gay-owned
companies, and gay men living in the most surprising non-gay metro centers
across the US are we seeing men not liking who they are? The answer again
lies in low self-esteem land. A one-way ticket that's been making gay men
dislike who they are and continue to oppress themselves similar to the
bullies of their youth. My commentary is merely designed to make one think
of the possibilities of harmful media. Maybe a porno watch group should
be setup? Who knows, but the real answer to this lies in he who holds the
remote or mouse.
By Clark David | |  | |